What do I want my marriage to be like?

What do I want my marriage to be like? It's a question I have never done to myself before, but it is a question every young single adult who desires to get married should always ask themselves. What would some of the consequences be if we don't ask ourselves this question before marriage? This last week I was studying a little more concerning the consequences of not asking ourselves this question before marriage, and there is also that we need to talk about this topic with our girlfriend or boyfriend before the proposal. When we avoid this topic while dating there is a higher chance that we do not agree with our partner on the kind of relationship we want to have after marriage.

Some of the problems that a couple may face during matrimony can only be solved by an agreement between the partner, and in a relationship, there are always going to be two different points of view, that is the importance of marrying someone that agrees, and strives to understand what we are thinking so that smart decision can be made according to the situation they may face. Cultures between the families of the couples are always different, and it is an important fact to consider, and think if it is convenient for me to marry not only the person I am dating but to marry his or her culture.

Taking decisions as a couple becomes a daily task, and not a simple one apparently, so a couple must be ready to stop thinking only about themselves when the time comes to think of each other one should always not agree with the decision made, but it is always required to support that decision even if that person likes it or not. A couple needs to learn to share in any kind of aspect during the marriage, and when things like this do not happen is when problems come. When we talk of marriage, we want to have with our partner the first topic to consider is the tasks they are willing to do for the household to work the proper way. 

As I was thinking today about the topic I was going to write, I studied some of the values that must be and rein in a marriage for it to work, these values are also considered types of love, that I will describe as:

Agape: Agape could be defined as charity. However, we often think of charity nowadays as giving away money or things, which doesn’t encompass all of what agape is about. Agape love is unconcerned with the self and concerned with the greatest good of another. Agape isn’t born just out of emotions, feelings, familiarity, or attraction, but from the will and as a choice. Agape requires faithfulness, commitment, and sacrifice without expecting anything in return.

Eros: Eros is romantic love. Eros also isn’t a word that appears in the Bible, though it plays a major role in a lot of Old Testament problems. Eros encompasses sexual and romantic love and is the root word of the English “erotic.” Lovers are often completely preoccupied with one another, filled with eros. 

Both Agape and Eros are important types of love that are indispensable in a relationship, sacrificing for the person that we love becomes everything when establishing a marriage, and Eros is important to renew that kind of love. They should always come together and be shown by the couple for each other constantly.

One more thing I would like to talk about today is concerning the duties of men. Often, men are the ones in charge of providing, ruling, and maintaining a household, these duties are indeed necessary, but there is always so much more they can enjoy from the family itself. When men avoid interaction with a wife or children, marvelous experiences are missed by making this decision. We shouldn't avoid the blessing of being fathers and supporting the learning, and growth of our loved ones which every time becomes common in a household.